Surviving to Thriving
One of the hardest things in life is to muster up the energy and commitment needed to create change in life, especially when you are burnt-out, overwhelmed and battle with guilt when you dare to put yourself first.
Have you ever looked at your life and wondered..
“Why am I only living but not flourishing?
Where is my time? Time for me to be able to do something for me?
Or maybe, are you living your life on autopilot and haven’t yet found a way to come back to your passion, your power & your purpose?
Are you being everything to everyone & having no idea how to break the cycle & start making time for yourself?”
If you have ever felt trapped in a vicious cycle similar to this then, “You Are Not Alone!”
I too have struggled with burnt-out, guilt and lived in a constant state of frustration, doubt, depression & exhaustion. It wasn’t until I was almost at breaking point, my relationship was hanging by a thread, I was drinking too much and I knew something had to change.
I was reactive, gaining weight but finding it difficult to eat. I was in complete survival mode! I was so busy that I couldn’t seem to see that there was a way out.. There was a solution & that solution involved the knowing that if I didn’t put in some effort for myself, I couldn’t expect my external environment, health or circumstances to change.
I had a choice: I could continue to bite everyone’s heads off, searching for someone, anyone to “fix” me and help me feel better OR I could look within and choose ME! I could devote some of my precious time to self-love, to self in any way…
I chose me! I chose my relationship with myself and even though I was exhausted and I knew this path would be a challenge to make lasting change, the time had come or I would risk loosing everything, including my sanity.
If you can relate to this as well, read on and implement these 3-Essential & Simple Tips that will lead you out of survival and back to self-love. This might just change your life.
If you do not devote some time to yourself each and every day, if you continue to put everyone else before yourself then burn-out will continue to show up in your life.
Choose a time each day and set your alarm. Each morning when you wake up or just before you go to bed at this time, commit to taking 5 mins to tune into your day. This can be a simple 5min breathing exercise, 5min walk around the block, 5-mins of yoga or 5-mins of journaling. Decide on one thing to commit to each day and after 3-4 days of making this time you will feel it difficult to live without as you are building a habit, a positive way to say hello to yourself and check in and truly ask yourself, “how am I feeling?“
Give Yourself Permission to Switch Off & Give Back to You
Many women tell me that they have no time for themselves, and even when they do, they feel guilty. As human beings, we all need time for self-growth and it is OK to take some time for yourself.
You have a space in your home for cooking, one for sleeping, eating, lounging etc. Where is it in your house that is a designated space just for you? Somewhere you can go and everyone in the household knows this is a “do not disturb” zone.
A Sacred Space doesn’t necessarily mean a ‘witchy-woo’ alter full of bones, feathers, and other sacred objects. It is a place within your house or yard where you can just sit back, relax, and reflect on your day.
This sacred space is just for you.
Another bonus of having a sacred space is it reminds you of how important you are! It is the space where you give yourself permission to switch off and give back to yourself.
Recognize Your Avoidance Habits
Sit back and ask yourself honestly: What do I do when I try to switch off?
This could be: pouring a glass of wine, making a cup of tea and scrolling through Facebook, playing a game on your smartphone, online shopping?
Now once you have you list I want you to contemplate then answer the following..
There are many other ways people try to escape and switch off. Take a look at your list and honestly answer next to each answer from above: Is this habit allowing me to switch off OR is it an action that: waists my time, allows me to avoid my emotions, gives me a fleeting feeling of relaxation but ultimately makes me feel worse?
When you have you list of the ways you attempt to switch off, now write a list of things you would like to add into your day that would actually fuel your energy and feed your soul. This could be reading a book, taking a short walk (or a long one), doing an extra 10mins of stretching, dance or yoga, listening to music and watching the world go by etc.
Once you put these 3 Essential Tips into practice and you will starting to notice a change in your life, one that can only come from giving back to yourself.
To conclude I ask you this: “What are you doing to cherish, worship and adore yourself?”If you don’t cherish love and adore yourself, no one else can give this to you. No-one can love you more than you love yourself.It all starts with you!
Remember that You deserve time out, You deserve to thrive and You can only thrive when You make time for You!